The funny thing is, I don't think he knows what it means for me to say he is a troll.
He's the husband of an old friend of mine, a friend I'd rather do without. The last time I had any communication with her, this is what I wrote. Since then I've had a surgery, sold one house and bought another, moved, and gotten pregnant. None of this seemed like something I wanted to share with her. I hope that all of you out there reading are coming to the same conclusion I am: there is no friendship left there.
So back to the trolling husband. He's not a loser, quite the opposite. He's someone who's had life delivered on a silver platter to him, and he likes to think of himself as better than others. He's well educated, comes from a wealthy family, and has settled into quite a comfortable life for himself and his wife and children. Everything is great. Except his personality. He's one of those people who is arrogant to a fault. He sees no reason to be compassionate.
On facebook, I am somewhat cautious with my public comments. The people I want to keep up with are disparate, to say the least. They range from my daughter and a few of her friends to my mother and sisters to friends of my husband that I know only through work to radical bible thumping conservative Christians to radical leftist ACLU-supporting liberals. There's a certain balance I want to maintain in an image that all of these people see publicly. What I say in more homogenous circles to them may be more expressive and opinionated, but I am somewhat cautious in the larger light that is my public facebook image.
Yesterday, when I heard about the decision of the California Supreme Court to uphold the decision of the voters on Proposition 8, I posted the following status message on Facebook:
"Will the state of California recognize same-sex marriages that were performed in other states like Massachusetts or Connecticut?"It was actually a genuine question. I wasn't fishing for comments or trying to stir up controversy. The only comment came from the husband of my not-really-a-friend:
"Is this an issue for you and your husband?"*sigh* Like I said, trolling. More unfortunate, it reveals a sad truth about his values system. Don't stand up for the rights of someone unless you personally stand to lose something.
I couldn't let the comment stand unanswered. I added the comment,
"On many counts, no, but it is a relevant question for other people I know."It's also a relevant question for people I don't know. It is a relevant question period.
The only thing left to do, I resolved, is to add the application "Send Trolls" and send this guy an orange baby troll. Then I'll modify my facebook settings so he and his wife, my not-really-a-friend, will have a unique group of their own, "trolls," in which they can see very little about me and have no permissions to comment.
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I made my Facebook profile rather hard to find. However since I'm now planning my 10-year reunion it's been hard to stay quite as hidden. Oops. I love the troll application. Are there creepy trolls, bitchy trolls and loser trolls too?
i do agree with the question about california...and i wonder the same thing..michigan, where i live, unfortunately (though not surprisingly) has the same law (no marriage between gays)and i am pretty sure it doesn't recognize them...i find it sad that it should even be an issue..but i just keep looking back at history and seeing that it used to be illegal for 2 people of a different "race" (what "race"? we are all of the human race are we not?) to be married, and those laws have gone by the wayside so i can only HOPE that the laws targeting gays will do so as well...i also have a friend who really isn't a friend any more..she calls me around a month or so before halloween because i'm the only one she knows who really can sew and she needs my help with costumes for herself...other than that, it's very sporadic as to when she'll speak to me...
Smart idea! Facebook sure adds a whole new dimension to human interaction, that's for sure. I'm still fumbling my way around it.
There are certainly a lot of people who don't think beyond their own experience...and plenty who are willing to ridicule others who do. I applaud your interest in the world.
I decided not to do Facebook.
My kids,my nephews and my nieces all have pages and I don't want them to think I would be spying....
like their Grandmother, who leaves inappropriate messages on their walls.
Your Troll? Wow, I'd unfriend him min a hurry.
I haven't used my Facebook account in so long, I forget my password...I like the trolls application!
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